I used to think self-improvement was a private thing.
Something you worked on quietly.
Something you fixed on your own.
Something you did without letting anyone know.
Then I started talking.
Not to everyone.
To a close few I trusted.
I told them the things I wanted to give up.
Overeating.
Overspending.
Overreacting.
Worrying too much.
Procrastinating.
Letting small frustrations become big moods.
Things I was not proud of.
Things I usually kept to myself.
And something changed.
The moment I said them out loud,
they became real.
Not just thoughts.
Not just intentions.
Commitments.
Now, when I reached for something I said I would avoid,
someone would notice.
Not to judge.
To remind.
Not to shame.
To support.
I realized that the more people who know,
the harder it is to quietly go back to old habits.
Accountability keeps you honest.
But more than that,
it keeps you humble.
It reminds you that you are still learning.
Still growing.
Still human.
There is strength in vulnerability.
Admitting what you want to outgrow
does not make you weak.
It invites understanding.
It creates partnership.
It builds trust.
It says, “I’m trying. Help me do better.”
And most of the time, people will.
Progress, I am learning,
does not begin with pretending you have everything under control.
It begins with honesty.
With saying,
“This is where I struggle.”
“This is where I want to improve.”
“This is where I need support.”
So now, when I want to change something about myself,
I say it out loud.
To the people who matter.
Because growth is easier
when you are not doing it alone.
As for my “go up” goals?
That is for another entry. *wink*