Lately, people have been calling me “bibo.”
The one who volunteers.
The one who raises his hand.
The one who steps in.
And I guess it is true.
I try to go first.
Not first place.
Not first in line for credit.
Just… first to offer.
First to help.
First to try.
First to ask, “Do you need anything?”
I have learned that waiting is easy.
Waiting to be told.
Waiting to be invited.
Waiting to be needed.
Going first takes intention.
Before your partner hints they need support.
Before your parent asks for help.
Before a colleague struggles in silence.
Before a client follows up.
You notice.
You anticipate.
You act.
It is empathy in motion.
This is how you add value.
The people we trust most are not always the loudest.
They are the ones who notice.
They send a message before someone feels forgotten.
They refill the glass before it is empty.
They check in before problems grow.
They do not wait for urgency.
They respond to awareness.
The same principle applies to growth.
Do not wait for perfect timing.
Do not wait for permission.
Do not wait until you feel “ready.”
Seek the difficult path.
Volunteer for the messy project.
Choose the task others avoid.
Because that is where learning hides.
If it feels too easy, it probably is.
If it stretches you, it shapes you.
Growth begins when you stop waiting for instructions
and start moving with intention.
I am realizing that initiative is not about showing off.
It is about showing up.
Again and again.
When no one is watching.
When no one is counting.
When no one is asking.
So if you want to stand out,
do not wait to be chosen.
Choose to move.
Choose to care.
Choose to offer.
Choose to act.
Go first.