Some people have started calling me a “PR guy.”
Someone who can talk to anyone.
Someone who can connect.
Someone who knows how to approach people.
Someone with the “gift of gab.”
It sounds nice.
But the truth is, it is not as easy as it looks.
I have learned that not everyone is easy to approach.
Not everyone wants to talk.
Not everyone is open.
Not everyone feels safe letting people in.
Some people look serious, not because they are cold,
but because life has been heavy.
Deadlines.
Pressure.
Expectations.
Worries.
All of it slowly settles on your face
until you start carrying stress everywhere you go.
That is when I realized something.
Communication does not start with words.
It starts with energy.
Before you say hello.
Before you introduce yourself.
Before you explain who you are.
People already feel you.
That is the message.
And one small thing changes everything.
A sincere smile.
Not the fake kind.
Not the “I’m trying to impress you” kind.
The real one.
The kind that says,
“I’m here. I’m okay. You’re okay.”
A genuine smile lowers walls.
It tells people you are not a threat.
That you are listening.
That you are grounded.
It creates space.
A smile builds trust before facts are exchanged.
It softens tension before problems are discussed.
It turns presence into influence.
I am learning that being good with people is not about talking more.
It is about making others feel comfortable first.
It is about reading the room.
Respecting silence.
Choosing warmth over ego.
So before I walk into any room now,
I try to remember:
Check your energy.
Check your intention.
Check your face.
Because people respond to what you project.
And most of the time,
the strongest introduction is not a title,
not a resume,
not a pitch.
It is a sincere smile.
Because wherever you go,
everyone understands that language.
And life, more often than not,
reflects what you send out.